Be Good To Yourself

Be Good To Yourself.

 Trust yourself.

 You know what you want and need.

Put yourself first.

You can't be anything for anybody else unless you take care of yourself.

Let your feelings be known.

They are important.

Express your opinions.

It's good to hear yourself talk.

Value your thinking.

You do it well.

Take the time and space you need.

Even if other people are wanting something from you.

When you need something, don't talk yourself out of it.

Even if you can't have it, it's ok to need.

When you are scared, let someone know.

Isolating yourself when you're scared makes it worse.

When you feel like running away, let yourself feel the scare.

Think about what you fear will happen and decide what you need to do.

When you're angry, let yourself feel the anger.

Decide what you want to do. Just feel it, express it, or take some action.

When you're sad, think about what would be comforting.

When you're hurt, tell the person who hurt you.

Keeping it inside makes it grow.

When you have work to do and you don't want to do it,

Decide what really needs to be done and what can wait.

When you want something from someone else, ask.

You'll be okay if they say no.

Asking is being true to yourself.

When you need help, ask.

Trust people to say no if they don't want to give.

When people turn you down,

It usually has to do with them, and not with you.

Ask someone else for what you need.

When you feel alone, know there are people who want to be with you.

Fantasize what it would be like to be with each of them.

Decide if you want to make that happen.

When you feel anxious, let yourself know that in your head.

You've moved into the future to something scary

And your body has gotten up the energy for it.

Come back to the present.

When you want to say something loving to someone, go ahead.

Expressing your feeling is not a commitment.

When someone yells at you, physically support yourself

By relaxing into your chair or putting your feet firmly on the floor.

Remember to breathe.

Think about the message they are trying to get across to you.

When you're harassing yourself, stop.

You do it when you need something.

Figure out what you need and get it.

When everything seems wrong,

You are overwhelmed and need some comforting.

Ask for it.

Afterwards, you can think about what you need to do.

When you want to talk to someone new and are scared, breathe.

Don't start rehearsing, just plunge in.

If it doesn't go well, you can stop.

If you're doing something you don't like to do,

(such as smoking or overeating), Stop.

Think about what you really want.

If you're stuck and can't think clearly, talk out loud to someone.

When you can't think straight,

Stop thinking. Feel.

When you're in need of love, reach out.

There are people who love you.

When you're confused, it's usually because you think you should

Do one thing and you want to do another.

Dialogue with yourself or present both sides to a friend.

When you feel harried, slow down.

Deliberately slow your breathing, your speech, and your movements.

When you have tears, cry.

When you feel like crying and it's not a safe place to cry,

Acknowledge your pain and promise yourself a good cry later.

Keep your promise.

When everything seems gray, look for color.

If one of these rules seems wrong for you, talk about it with someone.

Then, rewrite it so it fits you.

Remember, Be Good To Yourself!

~~Unknown

Enjoy the very touching song from Mariah Carey..O Holy Night...

LET IT PASS AND IT WILL PASS: CONFESS YOUR SIN AND JESUS WILL FREE YOU FROM PAST DARKNESS

Aggravations? Hurts? A hurtful memory? A dispute?

Let it pass and it will pass. Learn to pray more "for" something than against. Pray for and receive more. As for negativity, let it go and you will grow. They are lessons for us as we approach life with the strength of "manger faith." Take no offense when you are turned away from the inn.

To let something go means just that: don't hover on a negative. Say you just had a blow-up with someone. Say, you really are at odds. If you need to apologize, do so; otherwise: just let it pass, like a cloud.

All clouds -- however dark -- dissipate with time, unless we feed them the moisture of wrong emotion.

If you keep revisiting it, if you continue to toss it over in your mind, you will only give that negative hold over you.

Let go of past hurts. Forgiveness is a key to letting things pass. Let go of anger. That emotion destroys you more than whoever you are angry with. Let go of past lusts. Often, lust is the obstacle to grace (and causes a blockage in your heart). If you have trouble loving or praying from the heart, lust could be the "log."

Let go of phobias, wrong attitudes, habits, routine, grudges, inferiority, fear of failure, wrong friendships... Make a list (and check it twice).

Let go of your guilt:

To dwell repeatedly on what you did wrong in the past, if you already repented, only causes it to hang around.

It is even the devil's turf: Keeping past darkness allows in spirits that feed off negative energy and attach to that darkness.

Let's listen to a deliverance expert named Don Dickerman, who in a new book called Keep the Pigs Out says: "After a believer has become free from demonic intrusion, one of the giant doorways for demons to gain a new entry point is revisiting the past. It's like probing a wound that is almost healed. It's re-aggravating a nagging injury so that it cannot heal. 

"When you relive a past failure or an unpleasant time in your life, you are allowing demons another opportunity to use the incident once more against you. Don't go there. You must control that part of your thinking, or the demons will. You can choose to not think about the past, and when you do this, you seize any opportunities that demons may have had to torment you. Remember that fret and regret are two bad dogs; don't let them in. You must take those thoughts captive! By faith, apply the Blood of Jesus to the part of your mind that seems to be in replay mode. Speak your choice to dwell on pleasant and hopeful thoughts."

Be born anew (with Jesus) this Christmas. Don't let your mind be a broken record.

The Blessed Mother will help you. Go to her and give her your past sin and hurts or rancor and just leave them with her; she will know how to dispose of them.

Leave them and walk away from what haunts and taunts.

When Jesus delivered people from demonic infestation, His ejection of unclean spirits was final. He sealed the soul against re-entry. 

Seal yours.

Let go of the mistakes of your youth; let go of those memories of a relationship that went awry, or never should have been. Confess, repent, and move on. Let go of the insults that still plague you. 

Stop rehashing what others have said -- especially in this Christmas season.

Fly above the problem and you'll fly under the devil's radar.

Staring up at a cloud only gets rain on you.

Let it pass and it will pass. All things do. But it takes discipline, doesn't it?

Discipline leads to joy.

Says Dickerman: "One of the things we see healed on a regular basis when this is done is fibromyalgia. If pleasant words and a cheerful heart are health to the bones, what is anger and bitterness to the bones? If repentance and departing from evil is health and marrow to the bones, what is holding on to unforgiveness?"

The same goes for sin. 

"Father," we can say, "I confess of the sin of sexual relations outside of marriage, or wrong relations even within, and I renounce that sinful activity in Jesus' Name. I call back that part of me that was given to another, and I refuse that part of another that may have come to me. I denounce soul ties with [say name] and choose to be free in the Name of Jesus Christ. Amen!"

Do this with your list and you will feel it lift. Give it to yourself as a gift this Yuletide. Fill your stockings with right thinking and that faith of the manger. "Lord, give me a new and right spirit. Cleanse my soul. Cleanse my thoughts. Cleanse my motive. Cleanse what I like. Cleanse what I do. Cleanse what I say. Cleanse who I am."

"God will not cover our sin until we uncover it to Him," notes Dickerman. "As long as we keep it hidden, it remains exposed to demons who seize upon the legal right of unconfessed sin." 

What you attempt to cover, God will expose. What you expose and confess to God, He will cover.

Have you thought about Confession before Christmas?

Source: Spiritdaily

Christmas Prayer Novena

Opening Prayer (for each day)

Hail, and blessed be the hour and moment

At which the Son of God was born

Of a most pure Virgin

At a stable at midnight in Bethlehem

In the piercing cold

At that hour vouchsafe, I beseech Thee,

To hear my prayers and grant my desires

(Mention your intentions here).

Through Jesus Christ and His most Blessed Mother.

Day 1

Prayer: O Great Son of God, Thou hast become man in order to make Thyself loved by men.  But where is the love that men give Thee in return?  Thou hast given Thy life blood to save our souls.

Why then are we so unappreciative that, instead of repaying Thee with love, we spurn Thee with ingratitude?  And I, Lord, I myself more than others have thus ill treated Thee.

But Thy Passion is my hope. For the sake of that love which led Thee to take upon Thyself human nature and to die for me on the cross, forgive me all the offenses I have committed against Thee.

I love Thee, O Word Incarnate; I love Thee, O infinite goodness.  Out of love for Thee, that I could die of grief for these offenses.  Give me, O Jesus, Thy love.  Let me no longer live in ungrateful forgetfulness of the love Thou bearest me.  I wish to love Thee always. Grant that I may always preserve in this holy desire.

O Mary, Mother of God and my Mother, pray for me that thy Son may give me the grace to love Him always, unto death. Amen.

Day 2

Prayer: O Dearest Infant! Tell me, what hast Thou come on earth to do?  Tell me, whom art Thou seeking?

Yes, I already know. Thou has come to die for me, in order to save me from hell.  Thou hast come to seek me, the lost sheep, so that, instead of fleeing from Thee any more, I may rest in Thy loving arms.  Ah my Jesus, my treasure, my life, my love and my all!  Whom will I love, if not Thee?  Where can I find a father, a friend, a spouse more loving and lovable than Thou art?

I love Thee, my dear God; I love Thee, my only good.  I regret the many years when I have not loved Thee, but rather spurned and offended Thee.  Forgive me, O my beloved Redeemer; for I am sorry that I have thus treated Thee, and I regret it with all my heart.

Pardon me, and give me the grace never more to withdraw from Thee, but constantly to love Thee in all the years that still lie before me in this life.  My love, I give myself entirely to Thee; accept me, and do not reject me as I deserve.

O Mary, thou art my advocate.  By thy prayers thou dost obtain whatever thou wilt from thy Son. Pray Him then to forgive me, and to grant me holy perseverance until death. Amen.

Day 3

Prayer: O Dear Infant Jesus, how could I be so ungrateful and offend Thee so often, if I realized how much Thou hast suffered for me?  But these tears which Thou sheddest, this poverty which Thou embraces for love of me, make me hope for the pardon of all the offenses I have committed against Thee.

My Jesus, I am sorry for having so often turned my back on Thee.  But now I love Thee above all else. "My God and my all!" From now on Thou, O my God, shalt be my only treasure and my only good.  With Saint Ignatius of Loyola I will say to Thee, "Give me the grace to love Thee; that is enough for me."  I long for nothing else; I want nothing else.  Thou alone art enough for me, my Jesus, my life, my love.

O Mary, my Mother, obtain for me the grace that I may always love Jesus and always be loved by Him. Amen.

Day 4

Prayer: O Dearest Savior, Thou hast embraced so many outrages for love of me, yet I have not been able to bear one word of insult without at once being filled with resentful thought, I who have so often deserved to be trodden under foot by the demons in hell!  I am ashamed to appear before Thee, sinful and proud as I am. Yet do not drive me from Thy presence, O Lord, even though that is what I deserve.  Thou hast said that Thou wilt not spurn a contrite and humbled heart. I am sorry for the offenses I have committed against Thee.  Forgive me, O Jesus. I will not offend Thee again.

For love of me Thou hast borne so many injuries; for love of Thee I will bear all the injuries that are done to me.  I love Thee, Jesus, who was despised for love of me.  I love Thee above every other good. Give me the grace to love Thee always and to bear every insult for love of Thee.

O Mary, recommend me to Thy Son; pray to Jesus for me. Amen.

Day 5

Prayer: O Jesus, my sweet Love! I too have kept Thee suffering through all Thy life.  Tell me, then, what I must do in order to win Thy forgiveness. I am ready to do all Thou askest of me.  I am sorry, O sovereign Good, for all the offenses I have committed against Thee.  I love Thee more than myself, or a least I feel a great desire to love Thee.  Since it is Thou who hast given me this desire, do Thou also give me the strength to love Thee exceedingly.

It is only right that I, who have offended Thee so much, should love Thee very much.  Always remind me of the love Thou hast borne me, in order that my soul may ever burn with love of Thee and long to please Thee alone.  O God of love, I, who was once a slave of hell, now give myself all to Thee.  Graciously accept me and bind me to Thee with the bonds of Thy love.  My Jesus, from this day and forever in loving Thee will I live, and in loving Thee will I die.

O Mary, my Mother and my hope, help me to love Thy dear God and mine.  This is the only favor I ask of thee, and through thee I hope to receive it. Amen.

Day 6

Prayer: O my Dear Redeemer! Where should I be now, if Thou hadst not borne with me so patiently, but hadst called me from life while I was in the state of sin?  Since Thou hast waited for me till now, forgive me quickly, O my Jesus, before death finds me still guilty of so many offenses that I have committed against Thee.  I am so sorry for having vilely despised Thee, my sovereign Good, that I could die of grief.  But Thou canst not abandon a soul that seeks Thee.

If hitherto I have forsaken Thee, I now seek Thee and love Thee.  Yes, my God, I love Thee above all else; I love Thee more than myself.  Help me, Lord, to love Thee always during the rest of my life. Nothing else do I seek of Thee.  But this I beg of Thee, this I hope to receive from Thee.

Mary, my hope, do thou pray for me.  If thou prayest for me, I am sure of grace. Amen.

Day 7

Prayer: Dear Infant Jesus, crying so bitterly!  Well hast Thou reason to weep in seeing Thyself persecuted by men whom Thou lovest so much.  I, too, O God, have once persecuted Thee by my sins.  But Thou knowest that now I love Thee more than myself, and that nothing pains me more than the thought that I have so often spurned Thee, my sovereign Good.

Forgive me, O Jesus, and let me bear Thee with me in my heart n all the rest of the journey that I have still to make through life, so that together with Thee I may enter into eternity.  So often have I driven Thee from my soul by my sins.  But now I love Thee above all things, and I regret above other misfortunes that I have offended Thee.  I wish to leave Thee no more, my beloved Lord.  But do Thou give me the strength to resist temptations.  Never permit me to be separated from Thee again.  Let me rather die than ever again lose Thy good grace.

O Mary, my hope, make me always live in God's love and then die in loving Him.  Amen.

Day 8

Prayer: O Jesus, my Savior! When I consider how, for love of me, Thou didst spend thirty years of Thy life hidden and unknown in a poor workshop, how can I desire the pleasures and honors and riches of the world?  Gladly do I renounce all these things, since I wish to be Thy companion on this earth, poor as Thou wast, mortified and humble as Thou wast, so that I may hope to be able one day to enjoy Thy companionship in heaven.  What are all the treasures and kingdoms of this world?  Thou, O Jesus, art my only treasure, my only Good!

I keenly regret the many times in the past when I spurned Thy friendship in order to satisfy my foolish whims.  I am sorry for them with all my heart.  For the future I would rather lose my life a thousand times than lose Thy grace by sin.  I wish never to offend Thee again, but always to love Thee.  Help me to remain faithful to Thee until death.

O Mary, thou art the refuge of sinners, thou art my hope.  Amen.

Day 9

Prayer: O Adorable Infant Jesus! I should not have the boldness to cast myself at Thy feet, if I did not know that Thou Thyself invitest me to draw near Thee.  It is I who by my sins have made Thee shed so many tears in the stable of Bethlehem.  But since Thou hast come on earth to pardon repentant sinners, forgive me also, now that I am heartily sorry for having spurned Thee, my Savior and my God, who art so good and who hast loved me so much.

In this night, in which Thou bestowest great graces on so many souls, grant Thy heavenly consolation to this poor soul of mine also.  All that I ask of Thee is the grace to love Thee always, from this day forward, with all my heart.  Set me all on fire with Thy holy love.  I love Thee, O my God, who hast become a Babe for love of me.  Never let me cease from loving Thee ever more.

O Mary, Mother of Jesus and my Mother, thou canst obtain everything from thy Son by thy prayers.  This is the only favor I ask of Thee.  Do thou pray to Jesus for me.  Amen.

OK..I saw this pictures from other web and very interesting for me that the cutest and smallest babies...well they are not real..so wonderful and charming for me...they are melting my heart..huhuhu...Even they are not real, It is very touching think that born babies in the world are not exactly treat well by as humans..Some of them are not even have an opportunity to see our world and been aborted...Well, Please..think that a little baby, our baby and precious.....

Cute and Amazing Baby Sculptures by Camille Allen

“I am privileged to have learned the art of doll making from my husband’s grandmother just over 8 years ago. She taught me how to sculpt large lifesize dolls in polymer clay. A year later when I had some bits of leftover clay from a larger doll, I formed the bit of clay into a miniature baby.“

“When I held the tiny baby in my hand I had the feeling of protectiveness and fascination. I loved it instantly!” ~ Camille Allen

 

By the way, the Christmas season is coming to town. Here below is the instruction how to make a snowflakes from paper. Very simple, just follow the pictures and you then you are done. I tried many times with white paper or you can make by a color papers with different size. Decorate your house with something cute and surrounding with snow..hehehe..I mean snowflakes in your walls, your glasses windows. One thing, It is very fun to do with your kids with their reaction. So, Enjoy yourself....

 Paper  Snowflakes     

Below is a diagram of the first five steps to make a paper snowflake. (If you have made the 6 - Point Star - Paper Relief these are the same five steps except in the last step the cut is made as shown below.) Begin with a square sheet of paper and in the first step, fold it on the diagonal. Continue through the other steps.

When making additional cuts for the snowflakes, the point E forms the 6 points of the star or snowflake and the point D forms the center of the star or snowflake. (If you choose to cut off D, a hole will be in the center. If you choose to cut off E, the tips will have more points!) Make cuts leaving a 'path' from E to D. Then open to reveal snowflake. The snowflake can be flattened or made into a relief by folding the 12 creases from the center, alternating in and out (as shown with the 6 point star). Shown below are different snowflakes made from different cuts.

 

120+ square paper sheets of a mixture of various brilliant and pastel colors. The sizes are perfectly square and 10 different colors. At least 40, 4" x 4",  at least 40, 5" x 5", at least 40, 6" x 6". Only

Cardinal Bertone: 'Christians the Most Persecuted Religious Group in the World'

• By Deacon Keith Fournier
• 12/2/2010
• Catholic Online (www.catholic.org)

'We die, we die, okay. But the cross lives'

'If the world hates you, realize that it hated me first.... because you do not belong to the world, and I have chosen you out of the world, the world hates you... No servant is greater than his master. If they persecuted me, they will also persecute you.' (John 15:18-20)

CHESAPEAKE, VA. (Catholic Online) - The fourth Gospel contains a stirring "promise" of the Bible. It is rarely recounted by some contemporary preachers who often refer to the "promises" of the Bible in a manner that seems to imply we can all be "healthy, wealthy and wise" if we simply "claim" them. However, this promise is found in all of the Gospel accounts and comes right from the mouth of the Lord Himself:
"If the world hates you, realize that it hated me first. If you belonged to the world, the world would love its own; but because you do not belong to the world, and I have chosen you out of the world, the world hates you. Remember the word I spoke to you, 'No servant is greater than his master.' If they persecuted me, they will also persecute you." (John 15:18-20)
Most of our readers know that I write often about the growing persecution faced by our brothers and sisters throughout the world. Just yesterday we published a stunning account from a survivor of the evil attack on Catholics during Holy Mass at Our Lady of Salvation (Deliverance) in Iraq. Here is an excerpt:
"It was a Sunday and evening mass had just begun. Shortly after the Gospel reading, about 17.15, we heard the sound of gunfire outside the church. Father Tha'er, who was celebrating the liturgy, tried to calm everyone down, telling us to pray together. The noise became louder, then we heard a loud explosion and the terrorists entered the Church - five or six in all - and started shooting everywhere.."
"I saw the injured girl. I decided to go and get her to try and bring her to safety. I took her on my shoulders, but one of the terrorists saw me and threw a grenade at us: the girl died and I was on the ground wounded. I pretended to be dead.
"While I was on the ground I saw Father Tha'er trying to defend the altar servers: he embraced them and covered them with his cassock, to protect them, as if he wanted to hide them. One of the men attacked him, trying to beat him to his knees, but he resisted and remained standing, in the end the terrorist killed him. I could hear the cries of the people in the church, terribly afraid, when at one point I heard a voice, I do not know who he was shouting to the terrorists: 'We die, we die, okay. But the cross lives. Whoever it was, was immediately killed."
In recent articles I have covered the plight of  Asia Bibi, a Christian wife and mother in Pakistan whose "crime" is her love for Jesus Christ in a hostile Islamic State. She is scheduled for execution because she stood up for her faith in the midst of a crowd of angry persecutors. I have written about the horrid persecution against Catholics and other Christians in Mumbai India at the hands of Extremist Hindus and the continuous assault against Catholics and other Christians in Vietnam and China.
These are not isolated incidents. Sadly, they represent an ominous trend.
Those who live in the West have not had to face the kind of persecution that ends in the shedding of our blood - at least not yet. Instead, we are being squeezed out of the public square. We are facing the brunt of selective discrimination, verbal denigration and being increasingly marginalized; all of which is a sign of the intolerance of what Pope Benedict rightly labeled the "Dictatorship of Relativism." However, this too is a part of the same ominous trend.
Vatican Secretary of State Cardinal Tarcisio Bertone is representing the Holy See this week at an international gathering occurring under the auspices of the "Organization for Security and Cooperation in Europe" in Astana, Kazakhstan.  The organization has 56 member countries which include the United States and Canada. It claims to be the world's largest intergovernmental organization dedicated to security and central to its claim is its expressed support for human rights.
This meeting had an agenda to cover terrorism, human trafficking, unrest in Kyrgyzstan and the ongoing tensions in Afghanistan. The Cardinal gave a strong address in which he addressed those concerns. However, what was most striking in his address was his explanation of the Holy See's concern that all Nations respect "that human dignity which unites the entire human family."
He insisted that "this unity is rooted in four fundamental principles: the centrality of the human person, of solidarity, of subsidiarity and of the common good. These principles harmonize well with the overall concept of security, which is the foundation of our organization, and are a constant reminder which the political community must bear in mind".
The Cardinal reminded the leaders "the CSCE and the OSCE have always had the promotion and protection of human rights in their respective agendas" and that "These fundamental freedoms include the right to religious freedom". He affirmed "Developments of recent years and the progress made in drafting the various texts adopted by the OSCE show, with increasingly clarity, that religious freedom can exist in different social systems".
He continued, "closely related to the denial of religious freedom is religiously-motivated intolerance and discrimination, especially against Christians. It is well documented that Christians are the most discriminated and persecuted religious group. Over 200 million of them, belonging to different denominations, live in difficult conditions because of legal and cultural structures".
It was that line, "It is well documented that Christians are the most discriminated and persecuted religious group" which caught most of the headlines around the world. Rightly so, because the Cardinal is absolutely correct. We are living in a new missionary age. The promise of the Lord is being fulfilled "If they persecuted me, they will also persecute you."

I am grateful for the efforts of Church leaders like Cardinal Bertone. I am encouraged by the witness of heroes like Father Tha'er in Iraq who covered the altar servers with his cassock in an effort to protect them. However, in the midst of this ominous trend I am inspired by the anonymous martyr in that same Church who spoke the truth while staring down the barrel of a gun, "We die, we die, okay. But the cross lives!"  Christians are the most persecuted group in the world.

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It is a long time that since November, I never check and update for my blog. Suddenly, I really miss her. Well, the December came, i try to tell the stories of our beautiful Churches and other important events during advent. So, friends..let's go for another chapter in our life, see what happens next and during this holy month, please remember to our poor friends and unlucky families where ever there are....See u soon.